…Sam and I stood together in an 18th century wine cellar on the Ile de la Cité and exchanged marriage vows with only two friends and the french tag artist who officiated as witnesses. This year, I dragged our marriage through the mud. Twice. I’m beyond grateful that my husband is as patient and as forgiving as he is. It’s a marathon, he tells me. Not a sprint. I do not discount how fortunate I am that he sees things this way.
We’re certainly not the same people we were on that Sunday night six years ago and there is a loss in that for me. It’s hard to let go of what I loved and embrace what’s in it’s place. I’ve struggled with this. Things are different. Not bad. Just different. And I’m getting caught up to speed. Still, as much as we’ve changed—individually and as a couple—I’d do it again the exact same way.
20 responses so far ↓
1 Mrs. G. // Dec 23, 2007 at 2:57 am
You are such a striking couple. Happy Anniversary to you both. I’ve been doing the marriage gig for 18 years come February and all I can say is peaks and valleys, baby, peaks and valleys. Wishing you many more peaks.
2 San // Dec 23, 2007 at 5:32 am
Aw! How wonderful. Happy anniversary to you two
3 dramamath // Dec 23, 2007 at 6:25 am
You are lucky that he is patient.
He is lucky that you keep things interesting.
We are lucky to know you both.
Congratulations!
4 wordnerd // Dec 23, 2007 at 7:06 am
great feeling to know that you’d do it the same…despite the peaks and valleys.
congrats to the both of you on making it this far in the marathon.
much love and happy holidays.
5 Amelia // Dec 23, 2007 at 7:22 am
A toast to you both on your anniversary! To many more years of adventure, love, laughter (and great photos of it all… well maybe not ALL of it…)
6 Cheri // Dec 23, 2007 at 9:20 am
Wow! Tom and I got married in December too. I posted about our anniversary (blog and flickr) this year. What a mixed bag of tricks it is to go visiting places remembered, huh? Take care and happy holidays to you, Sam, and Ruby.
7 Your fairy godmother // Dec 23, 2007 at 11:03 am
Made me cry - tears of nostalgia, hope and joy for all of us.
xoxo
8 Professor J // Dec 23, 2007 at 11:17 am
Happy anniversary! May you have great happiness in the coming year.
9 susan m // Dec 23, 2007 at 2:44 pm
yay! **congrats** let’s hear it for those December weddings!
10 family-of-five // Dec 23, 2007 at 8:32 pm
happy anniversary, and merry christmas, aaryn. hope the holidays are treating you well and I am wishingwishingwishing I could of been at your party–
11 robyn // Dec 23, 2007 at 8:52 pm
What a happy photo of your wedding day! Happy Anniversary, with many more to come!
12 tina cockburn // Dec 24, 2007 at 1:35 pm
Happy Anniversary. I wish you many more years of patience, understanding and, above all, love.
13 Trasi // Dec 25, 2007 at 11:48 am
Happy Anniversary! I so know the feeling, when you think back on the feelings and who you were back when you were first together/married. My husband and I have been married nearly 12 yrs come 6 Jan. It happens to everyone that you change and grow, hopefully together, but not everyone realizes it or accepts it. I think that is the key to appreciating your marriage as you grow older, and cheers to y’all for doing it.
14 Caroline // Dec 25, 2007 at 2:14 pm
Congrats! What a lovely picture! Fab party x
15 oso // Dec 25, 2007 at 7:40 pm
Very touching post.
Here’s to marathons.
16 Amaya // Dec 27, 2007 at 6:20 pm
What a great setting! That wedding picture is gorgeous!
My marriage had a rough year as well, with a few “leave if that’s going to make you happier” moments. Looking back, I would have missed out on so many happy ones if I had.
Why doesn’t anyone tell you it’s going to be this hard?
17 3continentfamily // Dec 29, 2007 at 11:14 am
congrats! What a gorgeous couple you are
18 VeloCC // Dec 30, 2007 at 8:04 pm
Happy Anniversary!
I just fund your blog through your comment on mrs.g’s blog (there you have it for a thriving blogger’s community…)
I am not a runner so I am not sure if a marriage is like a marathon, but I mountain bike and you can definitely compare it to that. My marriage just got through a huge rocky section this summer. It was scary and we both crashed a few times and got bruises, but now we are back on the bike on a much smoother trail and it’s a beautiful ride.
But the trail (like life) is ever changing….
19 Jennifer // Dec 30, 2007 at 10:31 pm
Wishing you a year filled with many, many highs and very few lows! Happy Anniversary Aaryn and Sam.
20 Melanie // Jan 1, 2008 at 2:30 pm
Oh, beautiful. To be married in Paris…
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