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It might just be all about the hokey pokey!

I will, I will, I will! weigh in on the UCSD PR nightmare that seems to get worse with each day, and which makes me want to bubble-wrap my little girl before I launch her into the dangerous territory of adulthood.  But for now, I’m busy faxing and re-faxing and re-faxing again, reams of paper. [...]

“What If Sarah Palin Were Black?”

“The impenetrable stupidity of Sarah Palin knows no boundaries. She wallows in mediocrity. Palin is the queen bee of a cult of personality where to be anti-intellectual is a trait to be rewarded. Ultimately, she presides over a confederacy of dunces.” So begins Chauncey DeVega in a short, compelling piece on white privilege.  This Must Read can be found [...]

Just warming up for the Big Post

Overheard at my dentist’s office last week: Patient (white, middle-aged, male) at reception: I missed Aubrey. I was really hoping she would be cleaning my teeth today. Receptionist: I know, I know. She’s on her honeymoon. Patient: Where did she go? Receptionist: Africa. Patient: Wow! She just might come back with a bone in her [...]

Book smart vs. Common Sense

On the heels of the “ghetto-party” drama at the esteemed University of California, San Diego this week—which I will be writing about shortly, believe you me, oh yes I will—my husband’s business partner found a note on the ground, lost by, presumably, one of the University’s fine, over-achieving students. It concerns me how this individual [...]

Kill Buzz: On Google’s answer to social networking and other crap like it

I could have sworn I’d clicked “No, thanks.” But instead I must have clicked, “Hell yes! Sign me up now because God forbid I should have only 17 other points of access to all the mundane shit my friends (or should I say ‘friends’?) are up to.” Thanks to the shiny new Gmail Buzz, Google’s [...]

I think my husband has a secret life.

Me: I don’t get the difference between figure skating and ice dancing. Sam: Well, figure skating is smooth with a series of elements that have to be shown, with dramatic air-type things and turns and jumps and stuff. The ice dancing is more dancey, if you will, with dance moves and lots of those close [...]

Dear Dodge (in the words of Jerry Garcia): That’s right! The women are SMARTER!

My friend Melanie wrote a short post at The Women’s Colony this week about the stereotyping portrayed in some of the Superbowl commercials. Then, my current columnist du jour, the delectible, naughty, rib-crushingly smart Mark Morford—who, were I not betrothed, I would love to devour slowly and in small increments using an espresso spoon just [...]

Dear John Mayer,

When Playboy asked you whether black women “throw themselves” at you, you said: “I don’t think I open myself to it. My dick is sort of like a white supremacist. I’ve got a Benetton heart and a fuckin’ David Duke cock. I’m going to start dating separately from my dick.” Well, jeeze. This is awkward [...]

Roller Derby Girls

I was in the kitchen, setting out the frosting and the jimmies for the cupcakes Ruby and I had just put in the oven, when I heard a couple of heavy thuds come from the front hallway. It was pouring rain, Sam was away for the weekend and my heart had already exploded into a [...]

Going Rogue or Somewhere Over The Rainbow

(Originally published at The Women’s Colony on Tuesday February 2, 2010.) I had dinner and drinks last night with two friends from my adoption group. One of them has three adopted children. Her eldest, a 7-year-old son, is from Haiti. My friend went there to meet him when he was ten days old. She lived [...]

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