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On Privilege and Skin: Don’t avoid me—I genuinely want to talk

As most readers know, mine is a blended family. And while skin color is not my focus when going about my day-to-day life—when I’m praising and disciplining, wiping and nagging, feeding and doting and generally loving up on my kid—it would be a lie to say I don’t see skin color. I see it every [...]

“What If Sarah Palin Were Black?”

“The impenetrable stupidity of Sarah Palin knows no boundaries. She wallows in mediocrity. Palin is the queen bee of a cult of personality where to be anti-intellectual is a trait to be rewarded. Ultimately, she presides over a confederacy of dunces.” So begins Chauncey DeVega in a short, compelling piece on white privilege.  This Must Read can be found [...]

Going Rogue or Somewhere Over The Rainbow

(Originally published at The Women’s Colony on Tuesday February 2, 2010.) I had dinner and drinks last night with two friends from my adoption group. One of them has three adopted children. Her eldest, a 7-year-old son, is from Haiti. My friend went there to meet him when he was ten days old. She lived [...]

It’s most certainly not comparable to Trent Lott’s comment

Michael Steele is a peach. The Republican Party’s chairman and blackface (double entendre, intended), is calling for Senator Harry Reid to step down as US Senate Majority Leader over a purportedly racist comment he made during the 2008 election. In the forthcoming book Game Change, Reid is quoted as having said that Barack Obama would [...]

Hey, mister cop A couple ovaries and some white privilege can go a long way

“… I think it is time for white folks, faced with yet another story like the one emanating today from Cambridge, to do something else. Something that will illustrate that aspect of inequality about which we are more than a little expert. Namely, we must tell our stories: stories about our beneficent and preferential treatment [...]